Sometimes, you can’t engage in loud sex or kink play - because other people are around and the walls are thin; but this does not mean that it needs to render any night of passion, boring or vanilla.
Kink play noises may in particular worry you.
Perhaps you don’t mind other members of the household hearing the odd grunt or shunting bed, but the thought of them hearing a paddle strike or the clang of chains mortifies you.
For times when you really need to be quieter, here are 15 ideas for how it can be just as fun and kinky in that room - and no one outside the door will have the slightest idea.
Some of these ideas also work in public, which makes them public play, but still just as discreet.
1. Make him crawl in hard rice if he breaks a rule.
2. Scrape his skin with your nails (hard, and over the same spot repeatedly). Easy to do in public without anyone knowing.
3. Kick him in the balls, he must of course not make a sound. Also easy to carry out in public, you just need late night empty streets.
4. Trample him in your bare feet, then in shoes, and practice moving up towards doing it in your favourite heels.
5. Use him like a chair to sit on while doing your hair/make up, he can kneel on all fours and take your weight as long as is required.
6. Make him ask every single time he needs to go to the toilet. If in company he must send you a text message for permission.
7. Use a spiked clamp on his dick (available on Etsy) and tighten it as and when you please.
8. Attach painful clamps to his nipples – simple clothes pegs also work. Squeeze them tighter if he does not appear to be in pain.
9. Use his body to write a range of humiliating words on there and take a photo of it. He has to worry, that you now have these photos in your hands forever. He can be very easily sitting at a meal on a night out, covered in words below his clothing.
10. Why not make him sleep on the hard floor all night at the end of the bed? Maybe you want to stretch out.
You could even chain him there and make him ask for permission when he needs the toilet.
11. Play with orgasm denial, silent but very kinky. This can include ruined orgasms, and/or him asking (begging) before he can orgasm. You can also play with chastity cage tease and denial.
12. While at a restaurant, order his food. Do not consult with him first. Yes this is slightly public, but in the most tame of ways that could not offend anyone, however now the serving staff are gossiping about your slave and how you ordered for him, and he knows that. What might they speculate? They may even conclude that he is a submissive man under your control – delicious.
13. Hair pulling, face slapping. Pull his hair while you tell him what to do to you, slap his face when you want him to orgasm if he’s taking too long, and bark “You were told to come, so do it!”. Just some ideas, make it your own of course.
You might think that a face slap will be loud but it won’t be, as there is only so hard you can slap someone in the face and it be safe, and so the sound is fairly muted.
14. Role play; you can become his domineering teacher, his overbearing boss, or his speed awareness course instructor! LOL. Role play works best with props and so think desks, paperwork, and many men absolutely love doing lines under female instruction … “I must ensure to bring my workbooks to school, I must ensure to bring my workbooks to school, I must ensure ...”
Desks are also great for shoving him over and pulling his hair while demanding to know things like “Why were you driving so fast? Are you an idiot? Tell me you’re an idiot!” :’D
15. Electro wands! (Violet wands) The crackle sound they make is very quiet and even though it doesn’t hurt that much really, I find them rather terrifying personally.
The anticipation of the buzz can be quite a thrill … run it all over his body, and his balls too – of course. I have no idea whether it hurts more there or not, but fun to find out yes?
When You Need To Be Noisy
These ideas work well for when you want to be quiet because you have infrequent company in the room next door, or are away from home in a hotel with thin walls.
However being silently kinky year round isn’t a good idea, it’s going to harm your sex life and in turn harm your relationships. Silent/quiet kink and sexuality has it’s place, but you’re going to need to be able to make at least a modest amount of noise some of the time.
If you ALWAYS have someone in the room next to you and the walls are thin, then it’s time to consider sound proofing your room.
Not only for their sake, but also to remove your own self consciousness about what people may hear. You cannot enjoy yourself sexually while worrying about what the person next door may or may not be hearing; always worrying about it will inhibit you and circles back to the fact that it will harm your sex life and your relationships.
Sound proofing is about preventing sound from bouncing around the room.
Soundproofing Walls
Yes you can consider installing sound proofing onto the wall, which is not as expensive as you may think and certainly a good long term solution, but there are also DIY ways you can reduce the sound in your room from carrying through the wall into an adjacent room.
There are areas where sound bounces, and these include large empty spaces of wall, corners of rooms and windows (sound bounces off window glass very easily).
Placing something soft in these areas will reduce sound bounce. Rugs, curtains, pillows and soft furniture will reduce sound bouncing off these flat spaces.
Soundproofing Gaps
Another area to address is gaps. Gaps will let sound through them; the most common source of gaps is doors, and so address and block door gaps with weatherstripping and door sweeps.
Modern doors can also be hollow (as oppposed to solid wooden doors) and this can be a source of leaking sound. This can be addressed by hanging a heavy curtain over the door, ensuring it expends over either side of the door frame and onto the floor.
If Your Bed Is A Noise Issue
Beds are often a source of noise; if it creaks ensure the screws are tightened and oiled, if the legs are banging use a rug or furniture feet beneath the legs, if the headboard is hitting the wall – very logically just move the headboard away from the wall.
Installing Professional Soundproofing
Now if you want to be REALLY noisy, why not consider more professional soundproofing. While not wildly expensive, it’s not cheap either.
Soundproofing just one medium sized wall with acoustic plasterboard will come in at around £2000 - £3000.
Acoustic plasterboard can reduce sound vibrations by up to 42 decibels (dB), which is almost a 90% reduction in noise levels, but only if correctly fitted by a professional who has also used other materials sandwiched between boards.
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